I never wanted to marry an entertainer

Popular comedian, Emeka Adigwu, a.k.a Emeka Smith, and his wife, Prisca, talk about their union

How did you meet?

Emeka: We met at a comedy show, AY Live, in Lagos. She just visited from Dublin and came with a friend. After the event, her friend insisted they took a picture with me. While we posed for the pictures, I felt I should give her my phonecard. After the shots, she insisted I took a shot of both of them. While I held the camera in my hands, I kept looking at her image. After taking the shots, I gave her my phonecard and asked her to keep in touch.

How did the relationship develop?

Emeka: It developed through phone calls, emails, Facebook chats and Blackberry Messenger chats. After about a month, she sent me a message on Facebook, which I replied and told her I was in America. The communication grew stronger, and we discovered we had a lot in common. As an Igbo girl, it was difficult wooing her, but I am equally a Nigerian guy. I have my tricks and she couldn’t resist them.

How long did you date before you got married?

Emeka: We dated for two years. I am happy I married her, and I do not think there is any one better than her. She is awesome, fantastic and adorable.

How did he propose to you?

Prisca: He proposed to me at an eatery in Dublin. He took me out in the evening but did not disclose his intentions. While we were eating, he stopped and proposed.

Did you ever want to marry someone in the entertainment industry?

Prisca: I never imagined or wanted to marry someone in the entertainment industry. It just happened.

Were there other ladies before her?

Emeka: I was not in a relationship before I proposed to her. I had issues with other ladies in my life at that point. There were no heartbreaks; it was just normal quarrels and we went our separate ways.

What were the initial attractions?

Emeka: She was quiet, respectful, caring, loving and charming. I also loved her smiles. Her friend who took the pictures with me wasn’t smiling like she was. After the shots, I looked at the pictures and I was amazed. She has a good height too. She has every quality of an African woman, including a good character. I took my time to check that, and I was convinced.

Prisca: His personality and features attracted me. We also have a lot in common.

Were there oppositions from family members?

Emeka: There were no oppositions from my family members. My father told me that if I was sure I wanted to marry her, that I had his full support. But her family was skeptical that girls would always flock around me since I am a comedian. She convinced them that she loves me, and at the end, they let us get married. There were no oppositions at all.

Prisca: There were none.

How would you describe your marriage?

Prisca: It has been fantastic. My husband is the best thing that has ever happened to me. He is caring, loving, sweet and down-to-earth. I could go on and on.

Did marriage deprive you of your freedom?

Emeka: Marriage has never deprived me of my freedom. I just chose not to do some certain things anymore. Because I am married, I chose to come back home early and not to hang out with some friends like I used to.

How would you describe yourselves?

Emeka: I would describe us as Jack and Rose in Titanic movie. We are a fun-loving couple, although we have some quarrels sometimes. But it is normal in marriages.

Prisca: We are compatible and understand each other. We have our ups-and-downs sometimes but we always come to an agreement.

Do you get jealous of his female fans?

Prisca: I do not get jealous of them; I know they are his fans.

What would you like to change about each other?

Emeka: I would like to change her from shopping too much. She buys irrelevant things.

Do you have access to each other’s phones and social media accounts?

Emeka: Yes, we have access to each other’s phones, but I do not have access to all her social media accounts.

Prisca: Yes we do, but not all of them.

How do you balance your time between comedy shows and your family?

Emeka: My wife knows that if I have a show, it is serious work for me. I would not want disturbances until I am back. I am Emeka Smith at my shows and Emeka Onochie Adigwu at home.

How do you spend time together?

Emeka: We watch movies together, gist and go out a lot when I am abroad.

Do you have a joint bank account?

Emeka: We do not have joint accounts but we are working on getting one soon.

What common hobbies do you share?

Emeka: We love to see movies and swim. I love to swim but my wife is a better swimmer. She is a fish when it comes to swimming.

Prisca: We love to watch movies together, shop, cook or go sightseeing.

What causes quarrels between the two of you?

Emeka: Moving to Dublin has always caused quarrels between us. She disturbs me all the time to come to Dublin; she wants me around all the time and sometimes, I just want things to be done my way. Another one that causes quarrels is learning how to change Christabel’s diapers.

Prisca: Sometimes, we have misunderstandings.

How do you cope with loneliness when you are not in Dublin?

Emeka: I always have friends, and relations around me. I am rarely lonely; and when I have shows, I attend them. Sometimes, I try to engage myself by reading or hanging out with close friends. I also talk to my wife on the phone when I am lonely.

How do you make up when there is a quarrel?

Emeka: I crack jokes and make her laugh. Sometimes, we just sit and talk.

Prisca: If I am wrong, I apologise and if he is wrong, he apologises too.

What pet names do you call each other?

Emeka: I call her Sugar of Life.

Prisca: I call him My Love.