How to Deal With Disharmony in Family

A family deprived of harmony is nothing more than a group of people living together separately. But, with the right steps in right direction, initiating and maintaining harmony is not a difficult task.

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Steps

    1
    Answer the following questions to yourself:
        How important your family is to you?
        What does harmony mean to you?
        What are the issues from which usually discord arises?
        Do you think you somehow contribute to those clashes?
        Have you taken any favorable steps so far?
        Answer them truthfully and thoughtfully.The answers to these questions shall take you one step closer to the solution.These are for self-help.
    2
    Give everyone equal importance.
        A family can be a "Happy Family" only if all its members are equally important to each other.
        If someone is a part of your family then they deserve to be given importance.
        You can willingly mend a relationship only if it holds importance and priority in your life.
    3
    Tone down feelings and opinions.
        Disharmony arises only when members fail to draw an agreement between their feelings and opinions.
        Issues arise when either of them or both of them are overrated.
        Let these two parameters relax for while.
    4
    Stop Changing Your Family Members:
        In the effort to change other members, you end up making the situations worse.
        While changing others you are intervening into their personal space which is the dearest area of every human.
        A good idea will be to motivate them towards a positive change but that too not forcibly.The idea of change should righteously appeal to them before they can go for it.
    5
    Concentrate On Your Own Actions:
        Your actions are completely in your control. So watch them out.
        Change yourself before thinking "IF I COULD CHANGE THEM!".
        Observe yourself on the same parameters on which you judge them.
    6
    Initiate certain activities and organize outings with family members to release the tension.
        Activities-Meditation,Yoga,Other Exercises,Indoor and Outdoor Games or any other refreshing activity.
        Outings-Movies, religious places, resorts,outstation or any other place you all feel comfortable in.
    7
    Give them your time.
        Make efforts to understand them, to help them out and thus to keep bitterness out of question.
    8
    Offer Love, Compassion, Care, Respect, Trust, Faith: Practice these virtues. Then they will practice them too.
    9
    Talk:
        Talk things out with the members you are facing problems with in a polite manner.
        Don't hurt their sentiments by any chance.
        Don't taunt anyone because taunting is hurtful.
        Listen to their problems too.
        Accept your mistakes and work on them.
    10
    Family Counselling:
        If simple measures fail to work,then seeing a family counseller will be of great help.